Friday, December 23, 2016

Gratefuls

When I was working at Calypso Farm us apprentices would bathe in the sauna every Friday and do Sauna Gratefuls. It’s been a while, but ‘gratefuls’ are what I’ve been thinking about today, spurred by having to get my very very dead car battery jumped by many strangers tonight.
So here goes. I’m grateful that my car started—5 random people helped me, and finally a coworker who I hadn’t even met before drove out to help. It took two hours but was on the whole an enjoyable dead car experience. I’m glad that Lucy was just a phone call away and told me that of course I could stay at her apartment for the night, super last minute. I found this when I got in, and it made me so happy.

























I’m grateful for my lovely new coworkers for holding down the hut in the craziness of xmas break while I take a trip home. I’m grateful that my mom bought me a ticket home last week. It’s going to make me really happy to be home for a bit and see friends and go to the first bit of bird count. Tomorrow I get to see Becca who is home for vacation from Peace Corps, and I’m preemptively grateful to her family for hosting me for xmas eve and morning. I love how sore my legs are from skiing down from my job. I’m grateful for all the mail I’ve received so far at my new job—nothing makes me feel more at home. I'm especially glad to have so many new pen pals from Bear Brook. I’m so glad that the Bear Brook community is still so in touch despite us being so spread out. Our facebook group is honestly my lifeline sometimes. I’m immensely grateful for everyone who has helped me process my last few months; every conversation helps me. I’m grateful for the moments I’ve felt Reed with me, and that feeling makes me smile. I'm trying to react like I think he would have in situations where I would normally be stressed or worried, because I know he would just laugh. Although it has been exceedingly rough at times, I’m in a way grateful for all the emotions I’ve felt recently—the highest highs and the lowest lows. I'm grateful for google for helping me be sure I was spelling grateful right. I'm grateful to Maya for sending me my stuffed animal porcupine that I thought I'd lost forever. Lots of gratefuls to be had. Right now, I'm the most grateful for the sleep I am about to have. Goodnight!

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

This Month

I had planned a blog post about all of the knowledge and skills I’ve gained during my season as a Conservation Steward, but I felt like first it was important to share a more personal post about dealing with loss and the amazing community we have at Bear Brook. This is probably the most personal post I’ll ever write but it seemed like a good way to share my thoughts with whoever wants to read it.

(Posting this a couple of weeks after I wrote it)
The Bear Brookers were spread out across the state on hitches and at different parks when they got that call on that Tuesday night. Everyone came back to Bear Brook the next morning to join the group of us that had arrived that night. We then spent an entire week together—crying, laughing, eating, sleeping, cooking, lounging, walking, remembering, hugging, comforting, playing games. That week was the most difficult and incredible week of my life.
This month has been similarly tough and magical, and I’m going to attempt to jot down my stream of consciousness to share with you all what I’ve felt like and experienced. I’m doing this because I want you all to know what has been going on, because sometimes it is hard to tell people individually. It’s also hard to describe this incredible community that I live in to my friends from elsewhere. I want to give a full picture of the range of emotions and thoughts that I’ve been having over this month. I want you to know why it has been so incredible to be here, and I also want you to know where my brain goes when I’m thinking about that Tuesday night. I think it’s important for those who I am close with to know what I’ve been feeling. I also know that I’ve been spotty about telling people that I was the one swimming with Reed that evening in the river. That’s a very important piece of my story. I haven’t included every detail, but talking about that night helps me and I’d be happy to share more with you if you ever want to.
Here are something things that have happened this month, in semi-chronological order. Moments, thoughts, activities, dreams, feelings.

-The faces and the hands of the rescuers reaching out to us to help us up the river bank as the sun was setting
-Sitting under the stars together with our site contact from the park, an hour after they found Reed’s body, waiting for our bosses to arrive and tell us what to do
-Driving back to Bear brook late that night, stopping at the KFC/Taco Bell right as it closed but they let us in anyway, stopping to tie down the damn tarp, stopping to pee in parking lots, stopping for a barf break… the longest car ride of my life.
-Being so scared to go into the lodge, my home, because it meant that it was real
-Sleeping for a few hours in the lodge together because we didn’t want to be alone, watching Wreck It Ralph
-Thinking about Reed when I wake up and when I go to bed
-Laughing hysterically with my Saint-Gaudens crew, the group that was with Reed that hitch, about a hilarious moment during that horrible evening
-Wishing we had let Reed become a Junior Ranger when he finished his booklet, instead of insisting that we all wait to be inducted together
-Wishing I knew Reed better, despite being on most every hitch with him
-Hearing the cries and sobs coming from the other side of the lodge when the last hitch got back on Wednesday morning—unlike any sound I’ve ever heard
-A couple really nice sessions with the counselor that our bosses brought in to tell us about grief and to have someone to talk to
-Sitting out back when Reed’s family arrived, nauseous and terrified to go inside
-When I finally met Reed’s mom and she was wearing the shirt that Reed got her, and we hugged for a while
-How we all gathered around Reed’s family on that Friday night, nothing was planned, and then Matt gave Julie the letter that Reed wrote himself in January. She read it out loud and we laughed and screeched and cried and my heart was so full.
-How hilarious it was that Reed left himself $50 in his letter at the beginning of the program
-Walking with his family to the fire at Spruce talking about farming in Alaska
-Going to temple in Concord on my birthday with Levi and my mom, and telling those wonderful strangers that we were there because Reed had died this week
-Making my brain snap out of images that I made up of Reed floating in the river
-Canoeing on Spruce Pond on my birthday at sunset
-Playing so much Ticket to Ride
-Getting a tattoo of the circle on my birthday
-Spending time at the marsh with Hollie, talking about anything that popped into our heads
-Being giddily proud of myself for sleeping through the night after 5 days of rough sleep
-Sharing a Whoopie Pie with everyone on the porch and giggling about farts
- Levi and my mom giving me countless back massages because I tensed up constantly, holding all of my stress in my neck
-When Sarah and Phinn swung by Bear Brook for a glorious couple hours and I got to show them my life here, and they got to see output report
-We headed out on hitch on that Thursday, 8 days after we got back. Feeling so content in the truck on the way to Franconia, feeling the wind on my face, surrounded by people I love, belting out songs on the radio
-Lying in my tent in the evening of that first day, willing myself to get out of the tent and participate in a group activity that I had no desire to do
-Telling the group that sometimes I just didn’t have energy to give to activities or conversation, that all my energy was going in to basic functioning
-Receiving the most amazing letters and postcards from friends, feeling the love pour in from everywhere
-Biking to Profile Lake after work with Calvin
-Spending two days on the roof of the shelter singing songs and being Roof Gurlz
-When Levi and I spent a few hours just speaking in Spanish and trying to build complicated angle braces
-The amazing sense of accomplishment we felt after completing the rain shelter at the Flume
-When we had a huge hitch meet-up in North Conway during Hitch 7 and we played Tiny Trucks in the field!
-Going over that evening, again and again, thinking about everything that could have been different
-Wondering what the end of the season would have felt like if this hadn’t happened
-Dreaming about Reed’s mom holding Reed’s body in their bathroom, and inch of water across the floor and my book, When Women Were Birds, drenched in that inch of water facedown, and wondering what that could mean
-Waking up and thinking about the river
-Thinking about the moment when I finally let my guard down—I had been holding it together for hours, calling 911 and talking with officers and holding onto hope, and then we finally were alone and I lost it, then called my mom to tell her what happened
-Throwing a crazy 21st birthday party for Becca, Beer Olympics themed
-Sitting outside at the flagpole during the party, talking to Reed, telling him about how much I wished he was here
-Feeling glad that I told Reed how much I appreciated him a few days before he died
-Not being sure that it is real
-Wishing that everyone had the same images in their head as I did of how beautiful our campsite was and how calm the river looked
-Trying not to freak out when friends are sitting around joking about Wilderness First Responder senarios
-Successfully dealing with a real WFR scenario at the Flume, where there was a success story and I kept calm and did not panic, and how damn good that felt
-Taking the time to see old friends, visiting Will and Martha in Connecticut one weekend
-Knowing exactly which rocks would crush the best and discovering that I really love making crush
-Dancing in the parking lot at 5:30 am under the full night sky on the last morning of hitch because I couldn’t sleep—reveling that this was my life
-Seeing live music during our day off from hitch
-When Kyle and Ian came to camp with us and we hiked up Kearsarge in the morning in the fog
-Spending time with people here that I hadn’t been as close with
-Playing the G'Day Bruce game that Maura taught us and almost peeing our pants laughing
-Not knowing how to jump the van even a little bit but totally figuring it out and it totally didn't take us 2 hours
-Watching the sunrise from our lookout point on Mount Kearsarge on the last morning of hitch with Ray, Chrissie, and Chelsea, singing Traveller and holding hot water bottles and thinking about how much I absolutely love living outdoors and never want a job that pulls me away from it
-The jolt my heart makes whenever I think about what happened
-Hearing/seeing the officer come up to us and say: “We found your friend Reed, he did drown”
-Thinking about how unable to function I was in the week after Reed died, how I would try and do something like make lunch and get lost in the kitchen and have to go lie down.
-Thinking about how much my shock and grief was linked to my body—the nausea and headaches and exhaustion and fever.
-Gathering the whole group of us down at Spruce Pond for a secret meeting and by total coincidence the full moon rose over the pond and we all watched it
-Getting back to my cabin and having a nice chat with my roomie Natalie that I hadn't properly caught up with in months. She had the fire going in the woodstove and we had a really nice conversation
-Revisiting the beautiful moments before he drowned. The golden hour of light, he was washing his clothes on the bank and laid them out to dry and came sprinting into the water to join me. It was a glorious evening and the water felt so good, and we’d been waiting to swim for a week and we finally were doing it.
-Plotting thank you gifts for our incredible staff who seemingly put their grief and lives on hold to figure out the rest of our program and provide for our every need
-Watching a wild thunderstorm on the porch with a large group of Bear Brookers, drinking hot chocolate with booze and catching up and spending another quality night together


























I’m posting this two weeks after I wrote it. Every week it gets easier to not dwell in thoughts about the river. I’ve been happy for many parts of this time. I’ve been surrounded by wonderful people who knew Reed, we can talk about funny memories we have of him whenever they come up, we can talk about our sadness as well. A lot of times I still can’t believe it’s real, and I have to tell myself that yes, this happened. We have now left the place where we all knew Reed, but that doesn’t change how close our already tight community grew after Reed’s accident. Today I will reunite with a whole crew of Bear Brookers who are passing though DC, and I know we’ll stay connected and reach out when we need each other.  I’m looking forward to the times ahead where I embody some of Reed’s spirit and attitude about life. These past 6 weeks have been a whirlwind of action and emotion, but now I can begin to process more fully and reflect on all that I’ve learned from Reed’s passing and from the power of community.









Thursday, September 1, 2016

In the woods without a spoon

When you're out on hitch in the woods for ten days at a time, bowl and spoon struggles arise. Sometimes you have a choice of grabbing a good utensil, but sometimes the van is just TOO far away or you just plain forgot it somewhere. List time!

Things we’ve used in place of a bowl:
Measuring cup
Half a Styrofoam tray
Large silver serving bowl
Flimsy cutting board
Salsa lid
Glove
Diced tomatoes can
Coconut milk can
Aluminum pot cover
Nalgene
Plastic baggie
Pineapple chunks can
Jelly jar
Yogurt container
Nothing
Mossy ground
Bucket lids
Wrappers
  
Things we’ve used in place of utensils:
Rubber spatula
Spoon carved out of a stick
Hot chocolate lid
Library card
Tongs
Sticks
Carrots
Celery
A butter knife
Pitas
Tortillas
Jelly lid
Hands
Ice cream spoon from the store
A headlamp

Probably to be continued-- we've still got three hitches left!

Sunday, August 28, 2016

Frontcountry vs. Backountry

Greetings from another frontcountry carpentry hitch! This time my crew is working at the top of the Flume Gorge in Franconia Notch State Park. The rain shelter we are building will be appropriately titled: Top o’ Gorge. The sign is already made—all we have to do is some more rustic carpentry! I could easily follow up my previous blog post and write about our further struggles and realizations of rustic carpentry, but instead I’ll focus on the challenges and joys of being frontcountry on a hitch.
I’ll back up and tell you, dear readers, that my last hitch was the most backcountry hitch our program had to offer. Our group did not do any car camping, no no. We hiked 4 miles up two separate White Mountain National Forest trails (and those trails go straight up, lemme tell ya) with all of our gear for cooking, sleeping, and working. So getting to be on a very frontcountry crew directly after that one is both a relief and a stressor.

Our team in the backcountry spent a few days building tent platforms at a remote campsite. We barely had any human interactions besides the occasional visit from a backcountry ranger, and so we were free to be the weirdest we could be. See below:


























We all:
-      - frequently ate food that fell on the ground right next to moose poop
-     -  often shared the same spoon
-     - ate our rehydrated hummus out of a bag with weird bits of pita because the rest of the pita was moldy
-     - slept under the kitchen tarp on a slope because there was nowhere good to set up tents
-     - got way too excited about meeting the strangers we saw on the trail
-     - talked about farts too much
-     -  ate obscene amounts of vegetarian chili mix, sadly

Here we are in our uneven backcountry campsite, about to enjoy the glory that is vegetarian chili mix.




Fast forward to this hitch—we are working directly next to one of the busiest trails in New Hampshire (don’t quote me on that). Dozens of people pass our worksite every hour, staring at us as we dig and hammer behind a string of caution tape. We get a lot of comments like: “Aha! Look at the creatures in their natural habitat!” or “That’s the rain shelter? Better hurry up!”
Aside from the natural features, we are a main attraction on the trail and so we get a lot of stares and comments while we are working and concentrating. It’s a great chance to do some outreach for our program—I personally really enjoy giving visitors a brief introduction to our 10-month internship when they ask us what we’re up to. On the other hand, it has been hard to be in the spotlight at all times—there’s really nowhere to hide! If we have to have a serious group discussion about a decision, we might be having that chat in front of an audience, which adds an interesting spin to group dynamics.
But now, list time!
The frontcountry is great for a few reasons:
-we don’t have to dig a hole to use the bathroom
-no need to scoop silty water from a stream and then wait for the gravity filter to do its thing before having drinking water
-barely any lugging of water because we have a spigot
-we can hang out with our friendly neighborhood interpretive rangers every day and go to their programs
-we can wash our hands with soap and water
-our tents are set up on perfectly flat tent platforms
-many personal ‘thank yous’ from visitors for all of our hard work
-ice cream after work is possible
-cell service
-we could shower if we wanted to
-we are currently baking brownies because we have access to an oven

Even though having access to water is great, I’ve definitely found myself pining for the simplicity and atmosphere that can only be found on a backcountry hitch. I have to remind myself that even though we’re close to civilization right now, we can still be ourselves on hitch and have a grand ol time despite not having the separation of a few miles between us and humans and amenities. We can hear the highway from where we sleep, but on the other hand we laughed about canned peaches for about 5 minutes today so I think we’re doing okay.

Looking at the blueprints, behind the caution tape.